Well, it's not, you know. Get over it.
This is one of those "hot topics" that the guys I used to work with (Okay, I confess. Me too.) used to get all worked up about. They would try to outdo each other (when Don't guys do that?) with more ridiculous (and yet, sadly, true) examples of parents of sucky, wimpy, stupid, slow, or just basically douchey kids spoiling things for everyone because they don't want their kid to find out at the tender age of (insert any age younger than 30 here) that they are a loser.
I know you've heard the stories about the school districts across the country that have outlawed the game of dodge ball. Or, done similarly heinous things in the name of "fairness" or "sportsmanship". They talk about the frailty of kid's egos. Their newly forming sense of self. Oh, please!
I am NOT advocating for bullies. Nor do I think it's okay to rub a kid's nose in it when they lose. But let the little bastards lose!
I'm not saying we should say, "You suck" to these kids. That would be cruel. I am not a cruel person. I am a realistic person. I think we should instead be saying, "Hey, you suck at dodge ball. But I bet there are lots of things you ARE good at. Why don't we go figure out what those things are."
Life is not about avoiding those things we suck at. Because we all are terrible at lots of things. Very few people excel at more than a handful of things.
Life is about learning to participate in those things we are awful at when necessary and handling the ribbing or kidding that my result without getting angry and going postal. It's about teaching those who are good at things to tease gently or not at all. Or, to teach those who excel at something to teach those who don't so that all can enjoy together.
So, when the game of life becomes too hard for some of these kids, we should teach humor and grace along with winning AND losing. Then, put the nerds, and geeks, and uncoordinated kids, and jocks all in a math competition or a music competition and let those who tease get teased. Then, life would be a little fairer. But not by much. Suck it up.